Anxiety Counseling in Windsor, Colorado
Counseling for the anxious perfectionist who just wants to feel better
Located in Highland Meadows Parkway | Windsor, Colorado
You want to trust yourself without needing to have everything figured out first.
You think things through. You plan ahead. You try to make the right decisions, keep everyone happy, and stay on top of everything life throws your way. So why does it still feel like you can never quite relax?
Maybe you're lying in bed trying to fall asleep while your brain is replaying a conversation from earlier, wondering why you said that thing. And the only reason it’s on that train of thought is because you’ve already mentally rehearsed tomorrow's conversations, planned for every possible outcome, and solved all of the problems that haven't even happened yet.
You’ve tried managing it by reading the books, downloading the apps, practicing the breathing exercises, and asking AI for coping mechanisms. Maybe you've even been to therapy and understand why you feel this way. You (and everyone else) told yourself not to worry about things you can't control. But knowing why you overthink doesn't automatically stop you from overthinking.
You're tired of second-guessing yourself, worrying about everything, and feeling like you should be able to handle this by now.
You want to trust your decisions. Set a boundary without feeling guilty for days. Enjoy time with the people you love without analyzing every interaction. Make plans without needing to account for every possible thing that could go wrong. You want to feel like you can finally live the life you’ve worked so damn hard to create. And that’s exactly what we will work toward together.
What exactly is anxiety, anyway?
You overthink everything.
You replay conversations, analyze texts, and wonder whether someone is upset with you. You spend an unreasonable amount of time deciding what to say, how to say it, or whether you should have said something differently.
You plan for every possible outcome because uncertainty feels awful.
You like knowing what's coming. You want a plan, a backup plan, and ideally a backup plan for the backup plan. When plans change unexpectedly, you feel unsettled. When you don't know what someone is thinking or how a situation will turn out, your brain starts filling in the blanks with the worst-case scenario.
You put everyone else's needs before your own.
You say yes when you want to say no. You soften your opinions, avoid difficult conversations, and spend time trying to anticipate what everyone else needs. You do what you can to keep things smooth, leaving you feeling frustrated and resentful.
You worry about your relationships, even when things are going well.
You wonder whether your partner is upset with you, whether your friends really want you around, or if your boss is pissed at you based on a look, a tone, or an outside-of-the-norm sigh. Vulnerability makes it too risky to ask, so it’s easier to keep scanning the environment, searching for more evidence that everyone hates you.
Sound familiar? It’s like I know you. ;)
But why do you still feel anxious when you “know better”?
This is the most frustrating part.
You know you don't need to replay that conversation for the fifteenth time. You know one mistake doesn't mean you've failed. You know you can't predict the future, and you know that saying no doesn't make you a bad person. (Or at least you keep trying to tell yourself all of these things.)
You've given yourself all the logical explanations you could possibly need. So why doesn't knowing all of that make you feel better?
Because anxiety isn't always something you can think your way out of. If you could, you would have already.
Overthinking has become a way to create certainty. Planning helps you feel prepared. People-pleasing helps you avoid rejection and conflict. Perfectionism helps you feel less vulnerable to criticism and failure.
These patterns may have developed for understandable reasons. They have kept you safe and successful. And while they might offer some relief in the moment, they are the exact behaviors that are keeping you stuck in this cycle.
Your mind might understand that you're safe, but your body can still respond as though something is wrong.
And the harder you try to force yourself to stop feeling anxious, the more frustrated you are when the anxiety doesn't go away.
You aren't failing because you haven't found the right trick to make your anxiety disappear.
Instead, your body needs more support than what your logical brain can give it.
You deserve to feel good about the life you're living.
You deserve to feel more at ease in your own mind, confident in your decisions, comfortable in your relationships, and seasoned at showing up as yourself. Together, we'll explore the patterns behind your anxiety and find ways to create meaningful change in your everyday life.
Understand yourself and your patterns.
Get curious about what drives your overthinking, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and need for control. We'll connect the dots between your past experiences and what's happening in your life now to understand yourself with greater clarity and compassion. While understanding isn’t the key to change, it’s a helpful (and often easier) place to start.
Build trust in yourself.
Feel more confident making decisions, navigating uncertainty, and actually “going with the flow.” We'll work toward helping you trust your own judgment and feel secure in your choices, especially when you don't have all the answers.
Feel comfortable expressing your needs.
Get more comfortable setting boundaries, speaking up, and being honest about what matters to you. We'll explore how to communicate openly while building relationships that make room for your needs, too.
Feel more at home in your body.
Learn to recognize and respond to your body's signals with greater awareness and care. I incorporate body-based approaches, including Somatic Experiencing, to help you build a greater sense of safety, regulation, and ease.
What could life feel like if anxiety wasn't calling all the shots?
Imagine…
Making a decision without spending the next three days wondering whether you made the right one.
Saying no to something you don't have the capacity for and letting that be enough.
Having a difficult conversation without rehearsing every possible outcome beforehand.
Going to bed without mentally reviewing everything you did wrong that day.
Being able to make plans without needing to know exactly how everything will unfold.
Enjoying something good without immediately worrying about when it might go wrong.
Making mistakes, feeling disappointed, or have an uncomfortable conversation without treating it as evidence that you've somehow failed.
…wild, right?!
You might still experience anxiety. You might still care what people think, want to do a good job, and prefer knowing what to expect.
The difference is that those things don't have to run your life.
You deserve to feel like you're living your life instead of constantly preparing for it.
And you don't have to figure out how to get there on your own.
Counseling for anxiety in Windsor, Colorado might be right for you if…
You want to be able to make decisions without having to second guess or consult others
You want to be able to take care of the day to day and still feel content and energized
You want to go with the flow and have some spontaneity in your life
You want to have more control over your thoughts and your behaviors
Frequently Asked Questions About
Anxiety Counseling in Windsor
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I’m a bit eclectic in nature, pulling ideas from various counseling modalities that will guide us in identifying your thoughts, feeling your feelings, and shifting your behaviors in ways that feel doable for you to help you meet your goals. More specifically, I utilize person centered therapy (which means I look at you as the expert in your life while I am your guide and source of support), cognitive behavioral therapy (which helps you identify how your thoughts are impacting you, challenge these thoughts, and understand and change how these thoughts influence your behavior), and somatic experiencing (which helps you get in touch with your body and process previous events that might be causing anxiety).
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If you're a person who enjoys humor, sarcasm, and a go-with-the-flow counselor that can relate to feeling stuck, overwhelmed, exhausted, and without a clue on how to move forward, then I am probably a good fit for you!
For the past nine years I have specialized in helping clients understand their anxiety and find tools that actually work for them to feel better. I'm passionate about anxiety counseling because I know what works, both from my own experience and from seeing the success in clients' lives from their own counseling for anxiety.
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You don't have to be in crisis or experiencing panic attacks to benefit from anxiety counseling. If worry, perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the need to plan and control everything is affecting your sleep, relationships, decisions, or ability to enjoy life, therapy may help.
You also don't have to wait until things get worse. Sometimes the reason to start is simply that you're tired of feeling this way and ready for something to change.
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You're welcome here. Understanding your anxiety and knowing coping strategies can be valuable, but insight doesn't always translate into feeling different.
Our work can build on what you've already learned while exploring the deeper patterns, emotional responses, and bodily reactions that may still be keeping you stuck.
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Not necessarily, and we won't assume that every anxious feeling needs to be traced back to the past. We'll explore your experiences when doing so feels relevant and helpful to your goals.
The focus is on understanding what's happening now, making sense of the patterns that affect you, and helping you develop new ways of responding. You get a say in what we explore and at what pace.
And, if we decide to use somatic experiencing, it intentionally focuses on the here-and-now rather than the there-and-then.
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Somatic Experiencing is a body-oriented therapeutic approach that focuses on noticing and working with your body's responses to stress and difficult experiences.
Rather than focusing exclusively on thoughts and talking through problems, we pay attention to sensations, activation, and what helps you feel more grounded and present. It can be a useful addition when you understand your anxiety intellectually but still feel caught in familiar stress responses.
We'll discuss whether this approach fits your needs and work at a pace that feels manageable for you.
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Yes. I offer in-person sessions at my office in Windsor, Colorado, as well as virtual therapy for clients located anywhere in Colorado. Virtual sessions can be a convenient option if you're in Fort Collins or another nearby community.
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The first step is scheduling a free 20-minute phone consultation. We'll talk about what's bringing you to therapy, what you're hoping to change, and whether we're a good fit to work together.
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A 20-minute phone consultation is free.
The fee for a 50-minute session is $150.
The fee for a 90-minute session is $300.
If you would like to see if your sessions could be covered by your heath insurance provider, please reach out to them and ask about their "out of network coverage for mental health providers." I am happy to provide you with a superbill to submit to your provider.