Never Stop Dating Your Partner: The Key to a Happy Relationship

What is the secret to a happy relationship? How do I maintain the spark with my spouse? How do we keep our relationship strong and happy?

If you have ever found yourself pondering the above questions, you are in the right place! While the old adage to these questions is typically “communication” (and that definitely plays a part!) a healthy relationship goes beyond that.

As a marriage and family therapist, I have had the incredible opportunity to work with a variety of relationships – from freshly dating to celebrating multi-decade anniversaries, from happy couples to those questioning whether it is time to move on, from LGBTQ+ to heterosexual couples, and everyone in between. While each relationship has been unique, almost all of them have experienced a decline in connection at some point. 

If you have been in a romantic relationship for a significant amount of time, it is likely you have experienced the wax and wane of connection, too. And oddly enough, that distance typically occurs shortly after making a major relationship decision.

What is a major relationship decision? It can be anything that moves your relationship up to the next level – adopting a pet together, moving in together, getting engaged, or making things “official.” Any decision that entwines you with your partner often solidifies your relationship a bit further.

So why does solidifying your relationship sometimes lead to disconnection? Unfortunately, we often put in less effort with each level up we complete! It is easy to believe things are pretty strong between the two of you if you are committing to a significant decision together. Now that you have wooed your partner, you don’t have to try as hard to get them to like you, right?

Nah! The key to a happy relationship is to never stop dating your partner.

What did the two of you do in the beginning of the relationship that created that connection and trust? What did you do to show them you are interested in them? What did you do to let them know they should be interested in you? What memories do you have that created the biggest spark in your relationship?

If you want your partner to keep being your partner, show them!

Do you want to explore other ways to create and maintain a happier and healthier relationship? I’d be honored to help! Connect with me here to schedule a free phone consultation.